How do I become a good father - the best tips
Fathers are extremely important to the child's development, we all know that. But how does one become a good father? When can one justifiably claim to have done his best to educate his child?
What a father must be first of all is realistic in his self-assessment. Children do not want to fly to their fathers - they want to give and receive love for an authentic and loving person who shows their feelings. Being a father starts when the baby is still paddling peacefully in Mama's stomach. Already at this time a man can and should set off and become a good father.
A good father ...
... prepares for family growth together with his partner. He accompanies her to the gynecologist (at least when baby TV is available) and already dreams of her future as a family.
... is present at the birth of the child (except for him external circumstances or the delicate stringing keep it from - then better not).
... tries to spend as much time as possible with his child right from the beginning and that on a regular basis.
... can do everything Mama can do - except breastfeeding. Winding a baby, bathing it or lulling it to sleep strengthens the bond on both sides.
... knows about rituals and celebrates them with the child: the evening sleep ritual is as much a part of it as is the ritual farewell in the morning or before longer business trips.
... plays with his child and turns himself into a bit again.
... can comfort his child because he trusts him.
... is a teacher for the child and teaches him how to build a toy block tower or a paper plane, but also how to get up after defeat and try again.
... says and shows his child that he loves it and is proud to have such a great kid.
... is interested in what the child does, how he spends his time, and what he does.
... knows the friends of his child.
... knows what his child likes to eat, what his favorite books or favorite movies are. He also knows what his child can not stand.
... does not leave his child in the dark. He informs him when he leaves, when he returns, and when other important decisions are made that affect the child as well.
... does not always give in to his child. He manages to be consistent when the situation requires it.
... feels - as annoying as the little ones can sometimes be - enriched by the child at his side.
Nobody is perfect - not even good fathers
Admittedly, the list is long and hardly a father will be able to fulfill all these points. He does not have to, because no one is perfect and no child wants a perfect father. What makes a good father is that he gives his best and gives the child the love, but also the limits, that it needs. As for boundaries, less is more, love can hardly be given enough unless it degenerates into overprotection. Be honest with your child, but also with yourself and openly admit mistakes. That makes you human and who behaves humanly, will usually be a good father for his children - and with all the rough edges that accumulates in the course of his life.
What do you think of this list? Did I forgot something? What else do you find important? I look forward to your feedback.
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