When a baby is born , all they want is to be placed in the arms of their mother, but in most cases, they are taken away, washed, measured and weighted, sometimes these strange instruments are stuck up their noses and in their mouths. Their natural desire is to feel safe and secure, to hear their mothers heartbeat, the one sound they have become very accustomed to.
This sense of feeling safe happens when they are placed in their mothers arms and when this happens the mother and baby share an exchange of hormones that allows them both to fall madly in love with one another. But this needs to happen straight away after birth, both mother and baby need that time together, both of them are producing such a huge cocktail of love hormones for this exact moment. Yet so many do not get to experience this.
Right from the very beginning that first natural instinct is ignored.
When mother and baby are separated, the baby cries, because it wants to be with it's mother and yet all these procedures still take place, procedures put in place by the hospital mostly for their benefit. The babies cries go unanswered and now that little being experiences what it is like to be ignored and even worst to be scared and uncared for. They come into this world innocent, and so soon after birth they experience such distress, this is their first view of life, being surrounded by people who ignore them when they are crying out, crying out to so that they can feel safe, so that they can be in their mothers arms.
It is universally understood that when other animals are born you do not interfere and you do not separate the mother and baby, so why do we insist on doing it to ourselves, where is the logic in that. If both mother and baby are well, why can't we leave them for an hour or two.
Why at this very important time in both the mother and baby's life are we not allowing them to follow their natural instinct?
When babies cry and their calls to be picked up or cared for are ignored, how do you image that baby feels. Are we introducing the idea at a very young age that they have no power, that they don't matter. I have heard so many times from people not to spoil by baby by picking them up all the time. Well guess what for the first year at least, I more or less wore my babies all of the time. This felt natural to me, so I followed my own instinct in this matter. I really could not understand how holding your baby could ever be seen as spoiling them. They come into the world all full of hope and wonder and bam here we go knocking it all out of them by believing stuff like this horse shit.
And yes that sense of wonder that babies are born with, they are all born to be an explorer, to smell and touch and taste the world around them. Yet so many times they are told, no, no don't touch that it's dirty, don't put that in your mouth, don't pull that, no, no. no. That natural instinct to explore and learn for themselves about the world they have been born into is constantly being undermined. They are being told not to trust their own natural instinct. And then when they start to really move about, people get so nervous and fearful and they push those feelings onto the child.
Why are some people so adamant at undermining children, I guess a lot of the time it is learnt behaviour, they are only doing what was done to them. But are we not meant to be evolving, are we not meant to keep learning, striving to improve ourselves. But we are not taught to look at ways to improve our lives, we are taught to look at ways that adds more value to the society we live in, to add more power to those that rule. One sure way of doing that is to weaken our strength individually, finding ways to ensure that we sit still and listen, that we grow up knowing what authority is and that we know our place.
This is happening straight after birth for so many, this is something we need to realize that what is happening is not natural. Yet the amount of babies suffering this trauma is rising everyday. What are we going to do about it, what can we do about it. Find our voices, use them and if you are expecting, make sure you know your rights, make a birth plan and tell them you want your baby in your arms straight after birth and to be left undisturbed for the first hour at least. But most importantly really think about all the ways that our natural instincts are being undermined, and talk about it.And really start listening to yourself, trust yourself and trust your children
I would love to know what your thoughts are about Our Natural Instincts and why you think they are being destroyed
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