Hello friends, first of all I would like to thank abundance.tribe for taking this initiative of biweekly question. It really broaden your thought about the issues by brainstorming or by reading fellow members post. Now this biweekly question is
Are you afraid of your own success?
My straight answer for this question is yes. May be strange answer for many people. Majority of time we relates fear with failure. But believe me people also get easily afraid of getting success. Hard to believe but it's a fact of life.
Fear exist in our mind. Just imagine new born. They come in this world with the art of weeping only. They gain a lot of success in life. Kids are good and quick learner as they have no or little fear in their mind. They have more self belief and self belief comes when you have low fear or high confidence level.
Success is not a single day story. It comes after a long hard work and efforts. kids can't start running at once. First they start crawling. kids are more confident to achieve goal because they are less conscious about the goals. As kids grow older they face failure and success. The failure leave a footprint in mind, which ended up as a fear.This fear grow more and more with each failure. It stays in mind no matter how successful you are. Level of fear can be only minimized by proper addressing. One of the way of proper addressing fear is to do root cause analysis. Write down the points which give you fear.Try to sort out these points by self analysis. In this way you can deal with fear in a better way.
Success & Fear
Success is a ladder which can't be climbed in a day. It is a continuous effort. Your efforts give you fruit in the form of success but fear in your mind will make you afraid. Now the question comes in mind what type of fear one can feel on achieving success?
Fear of loosing Friends
The cat will give you the answer of this question. Joking. Not at all. Look at this cat who achieved the higher rank but still feeling scary.I am just like the cat who don't want to stand alone. Remember success can't be achieved without a lot of efforts and struggle and during these efforts you have to sacrifice the time of loved ones and friend and some time your family as a result at the end you have success but you stand alone. Man is a social animal and no one wants to stand alone. The other negative perspective of attaining a high rank is that people easily get jealous with you. This creates fear in your mind despite getting success.
Fear of Change
Humans love to live in a comfort zone, same is the story with me. I don't like to leave my comfort zone due to my laziness or shyness. But it is a fact of life bigger rank demands changes and majority of us don't want to change our comfort zone. Success and fame also make yourself popular and this popularity may spoil your free time. Being a celebrity is a dream of majority of us but it's hard to live celebrity life as the requirements are pretty different. You can't sit in public places you can't enjoy picnic spot and so on.
Being Perfectionist
Being perfectionist is also your worst enemy. Personally I feel I am a perfectionist who want to see perfection in my work. It doesn't mean I don't commit a mistake. I commit a lot of mistakes. No one is perfect in this world except our Creator. Being perfection in your work either you achieve a lot of success or no success not only eat precious time but also make you depressed in life. One of the worst thing being perfectionist is that you criticize yourself all the time at your work which is one of the biggest enemy of your creativity and talent. Infact, we need admiration from ourself to achieve big in life.
Fear of Rejection
This is an other fear which I feel. Although I admit that it's impossible to make all the people around your surroundings happy.Just like five fingers are not same people choice are not same. Few people may like your work and few will dislike it. It's the part of the life. Only thing in your hand is your hard work and efforts.
Nothing is permanent in life. There is a dawn after every night. It is important to enjoy the every moment of life. The things I learned is that
success is not a destiny. It is a journey. Just like new baby journey started from weeping and exploring the art of life. If we take success as a journey our effort will continue as a result our confidence will increase. This will minimize our fear in mind. This is a big problem of our third world country people we don't want to see beyond what human mind can do. Majority of us are happy what we achieve in life. This stop our journey. As a result we get easily depressed. If the journey continue we don't have enough time to thing else other than striving for excellence. Remember end of journey means giving space to anxiety and depression. Decision is in your own hand.This is my story. I hope you will like my reply.
wish you a very happy, safe and blessed life ahead. Have a nice time