Saludos , ha pasado un tiempo desde la última vez que estuve en esta comunidad, el tema de la nueva iniciativa me pareció bastante interesante y polémico, trata de que reflexionemos sobre la diferencia entre una deseo y una necesidad. Me gustaría invitar a participar a @ismaelgranados @brujita18 @chacald.dcymt
Greetings, it's been a while since the last time I was in this community, the theme of the new initiative seemed quite interesting and controversial, it tries to make us reflect on the difference between a desire and a need. I would like to invite @ismaelgranados @ brujita18 @chacald.dcymt to participate
Leer sobre esto me trajo como recuerdo una de mis canciones favoritas de Amanda Palmer cuando estaba con The dresden dolls hizo un cover de la canción I want you but i don't need you , original de Momus. Esta canción tiene una letra que en principio puede ofrecer graciosa pero que plantea un tema completamente profundo y real, este es el deseo de estar con alguien pero no la necesidad de estarlo, también plantea como una persona puede desear ser necesitado por la otra persona, pero el deseo de la primera no depende de la necesidad propia ni del deseo de su pareja. Entonces a todas estas yo veo como por ejemplo las relaciones de pareja no son una necesidad sino un deseo, incluso actualmente los sexologos han derrumbado el mito de que las relaciones sexuales son una necesidad, hay muchos artículos que se pueden encontrar fácilmente en la web sobre esto que menciono, pues si bien toda especie sobrevive gracias a la reproducción, lo cierto es que una persona , hablando de términos individuales no necesita el sexo para sobrevivir, sin embargo , esto ahora es visto por lo expertos como una satisfacción de un impulso, quizá por eso mismo me hace eco la canción antes mencionada porque claramente especifica que si a la pareja solo se desea para tener sexo entonces eso arruina todo, pero claramente ambas personas lo desean, pero dejando claro que no se necesitan.
Reading about this reminded me of one of my favorite songs by Amanda Palmer when she was with The Dresden Dolls, she covered the song I want you but I don't need you, original Momus. This song has lyrics that at first can be funny but that raises a completely deep and real issue, this is the desire to be with someone but not the need to be, it also raises how a person can want to be needed by the other person, but the desire of the first does not depend on her own need or the desire of her partner. So I see all of these as, for example, relationships are not a need but a desire, even today sexologists have demolished the myth that sexual relations are a necessity, there are many articles that can be easily found on the web about this that I mention, because although all species survive thanks to reproduction, the truth is that a person, speaking in individual terms, does not need sex to survive, however, this is now seen by experts as a satisfaction of an impulse, Maybe that's why the aforementioned song echoes me because it clearly specifies that if the couple only wants to have sex then that ruins everything, but clearly both people want it, but making it clear that they don't need each other.
Por otro lado, recuerdo que cuando estudié educación, una de la primeras teoría psicológicas que tratamos en aquellas clases, fue la teoría de las necesidades de Maslow , en donde las necesidades básicas están aquellas que tenemos que satisfacer para poder vivir, mas arriba del escalón de necesidades básicas, se encuentra la seguridad, las necesidades sociales, las de reconocimiento y las de autorrealización, si bien es cierto que las necesidades básicas son las prioritarias, a nivel psicológico es muy importante cumplir al menos gran parte de las que siguen en la pirámide, entonces por ejemplo una relación sentimental estaría según la teoría de Maslow de dentro de el nivel social , siendo una necesidad afectiva, pero obviamente es algo que no nos quitaría la vida.
On the other hand, I remember that when I studied education, one of the first psychological theories that we dealt with in those classes was Maslow's theory of needs, where the basic needs are those that we have to satisfy in order to live, above the step of basic needs, there is security, social needs, recognition needs and self-realization needs, although it is true that basic needs are the priorities, at a psychological level it is very important to meet at least a large part of those that follow in the pyramid, then, for example, a sentimental relationship would be, according to Maslow's theory, within the social level, being an affective need, but obviously it is something that would not take our lives.
What do I mean with all this song and Maslow's pyramid, well according to my point of view, basic needs are the priority, without these we could not live, but clearly in life you also need other things to have good health mentally, I mean that it is true that no one dies of love, but isolation or not feeling loved by anyone is something that could lead a person to total imbalance, even if they have food, shelter, air and health, that's why it is important to have the ability to discern to what extent a desire or an impulse for an incentive should be considered a necessity, one must be very careful to control said impulses or desires, not to turn them into something essential to live.
Although the idea seems like a tongue twister, for me we have to have control of our lives, know what we really need to live and not allow impulses to take control, not letting desires or whims become something more important, Of course, human beings derive pleasure from many unnecessary things, but the ideal for me is not to allow this to exceed healthy limits.
For adults it should not be so complicated, however, children are more impulsive and that is why I give my little son as an example, he told me he wanted to have a brother, I told him that I do not have a husband and that I could not give him a brother, although obviously this does not depend on my son's wishes, that was the answer I gave him at that time, then he told me to look for someone to marry me 😂 I told him that you don't look for that in a store as a product, what I mean is that my son does not have an affective need, I do not think that his desire to have a brother is a need, it is a desire because he has realized that children with siblings have a lot of fun, but he is a child , he still doesn't know the difference between a desire and a need, but in general I think that many adults still have childlike attitudes that don't allow them to see when they do something out of simple desire.
Espero les haya gustado. Les invito a leer mis próximas publicaciones y siempre estaré dispuesta a responder sus preguntas y comentarios, también pueden seguirme y contactarme en cualquiera de mis redes sociales. ¡Muchas gracias!
I hope you liked it. I invite you to read my next publications and I will always be willing to answer your questions and comments, you can also follow me and contact me on any of my social networks. Thank you!