Love is not hurting anyone. And if you feel that you have suffered from love, than something else in you that was in pain is not the kind of love and another. If you do not understand this, you will keep yourself, they revolve in the same circle. What you call love, can hide many things, not enough love that they stayed hidden in you – the human mind was very clever, very original, when it was him to deceive others and deceive ourselves. The mind assigns labels beautiful, some ugly stuff, trying to cover wounds with flowers. This is one of the first things that need to go if you want to understand what love is.
”Love” as used in usually the word people, not love, and pleasure. And fun is designed to create pain, because I want someone as an object means a person. This insult is violence. When you approach someone obsessed with in the flesh, until you say that it's love?
Something surface, will seem like love, but as at once, hidden under a Golden, you will find pleasure purely bodily. Pleasures of the flesh is animal. Watch man with a fun in the flesh means it, means to reduce by that person in working condition, good mileage. Nobody likes to be used. No product, no it is not a means to an end. This distinction between carnal pleasure and love. Enjoy the bodily wear from other to fulfill their desires.
Love is the opposite: respect each other as objectives in themselves, in what looks at himself. When you love someone as a mark, there is a sense of pain; the experience, it enriches you. Love enriches any.
Second, love cannot be true than if it is not hidden ego; otherwise love becomes only an ego trip. This tool is very thin, to dominate. And you have to be very conscious, because the desire to dominate is very deeply rooted. Does not appear ever; it always comes hidden behind some clothes are beautiful, richly decorated.
Parents never say that their sons and daughters are their property, not never say that they want to dominate the children, but just do it. Say you want to be helpful, they say they want to be smart, healthy, blooming, but – and this ”but” there is one, but huge – all should be according to their ideas. And happiness of children should be decided by the ideas of parents; children should be happy, according to the parents ' expectations. Children need to be smart, but at the same time. This means that you're asking the impossible. A smart man can not be; the person you need to get rid of some of the intelligence they. The intellect is unable to say "Yes" than if he is in deep harmony with yourself. Can't say "Yes" just because you're taller, stronger, because you have power higher that mom, dad, priest, politician. Can't say Yes only because of the power they represent. Intelligence is rebellious and no parent wants to have children rebels. The revolt will come, in spite of their hidden desire to dominate.
In its most pure, love means to share joy. Without asking for anything in return, expecting nothing back; and how can you suffer ? When you do not expect anything, it is possible to suffer. Instead, all that comes is welcome and, if you do not receive anything, good and true. Your joy was in giving, not receiving. Moreover, you can love thousands of kilometers away; don't even need to be physically present.
Carnal pleasure, it's physics. Ego is psychological; love is spiritual. The alphabet of love is what you need to know. You need to start from scratch; otherwise you will suffer every time. And reminds you nobody but you is responsible. Only you can help.
How can someone else help you? No you can not destroy the ego. If you it, nobody can destroy it; if you invested in it, nobody can destroy it. No one can lead you, holding your hand.
It is you want: do you want to play the game addiction. And remember, that the person who plays the game addiction will take revenge. Soon will want, and another to be addicted to it, in one form or another. If the wife depends on the husband in terms of money, will try, in turn, try to make him dependent on him for other things. The location of each other. Both get crippled, they both become paralyzed; can't exist without each other. The dependent person will make you addicted.
Fear is never love, and love is never afraid. Love has nothing to lose. Why do you love themes? Love only gives. Is not the subject of a commercial transaction, therefore, is not a question of winning or losing. Love loves to give as well as the flower loves to exude fragrance. Why are you themes? Why do you topic you? Remember: fear and love are never together; you can't. Coexistence is not possible. Fear is the opposite of love.
Usually, people think that hate is the opposite of love. This is wrong, absolutely wrong. Fear is the opposite of love. Hatred is love turned on its head; it's inside out, but is not the opposite of love. The one who hates the show, somewhere, still loves. The love of a good mood, but there's more. Fear is the complete opposite. Fear now means that all the energy of love was gone.
Love is an extrovert, it can be applied without the fear of the other, confident that they will receive – and it is always accepted. Fear, then, you pack in yourself to close you to close all doors, all Windows so that no ray of sun, no wind, no rain drops could not reach you – you-it's very scary. You enter the tomb alive.
Fear is grave, love is a temple. By love of life to get to the top of the highest. Why would you be scared?
May be afraid of your ego may be afraid of the pleasures of your flesh, may be afraid of your greed, could be afraid of your possessiveness; be afraid of jealousy – but he never puts in any case, the question is afraid of love. Love is divine. Love is too light. When there is light, cannot exist in the dark. When there is love cannot be fear.
Love can make your life a great holiday – but only love, not bodily pleasure, not ego, not possessiveness, jealousy, and dependence.