Asking for help can be really hard! 

Because if you ask for help you are saying that you can't do something alone and this might make you feel really uncomfortable. 

Asking for help is really a brave thing to do. You can't do everything alone and needing help is not bad at all. It's your mindset that keeps you from it! 

Asking for help means that you stand up for yourself! 

For a long time, I wanted to do everything alone. I was not ready to let others see that I could not do something. I was scared they would think less of me or that they would think that I am worthless. During a long personal progress ( Still learning every day) I found a few handles to learn how to things different. The first thing I learned myself was looking at myself, really see myself for who I am and what I stand for! It has opened many doors for me and I closed a few myself because I realized that behind those doors I would only find pain and struggles. 

I wanted to change something in my life and to be able to make that happen I had to start with myself! 

While it was very hard for me the first times to ask for help, it also made me feel proud that I found the strength to ask. In the end, it made me feel better because I got more things done and I found out that working together with others makes me happy! 

There is this step by step guideline I follow before I ask someone for help and I am going to share that here on Steemit so it might help others as well! 

Step1) Formulate your question!

Take some time to think about the problem you need help for! 

*Do you need help to find a job?

*Do you need help with writing your story?

*Do you need help because someone is bullying you?

*Do you need help with understanding something you read or saw?

Think about who the best person will be to ask for help. Who do you dare to ask? Who can offer you the help you need? Who has enough time for it? Find someone you trust. It also depends a lot on the type of question you are asking help for! You may want to talk to your friend about your choice first and then maybe with your parents or your boss. 

Now the question remains when you will ask for help? Pick a good moment and make sure the person you are going to ask for help has time to listen to your question! Don't ask your question while playing a game or when the other person can easily be distracted!  It is also not good to wait too long before you ask for help, because your question may have grown even bigger.

Now think about how to ask the question. An I message is the best way to formulate your question. It tells the other person what you want, or where you need help. Say what's on your mind and what the other person can do for you. This way you can find a solution together.

Step 2) Asking for help!

Ask your question to the other person as you prepared in Step 1.

Try to be short and clear.

*Give the other person the opportunity to give his or her opinion. 

*You can ask, "How would you handle that?" Or "What do you think about it?". 

*Listen well to his or her opinion.

*Say you're fine or sorry if he or she can not help.

What happens when the other can't help you?

*Accept a no. This might be hard but you need to understand that not everybody will be ably to help you!

*Do not make yourself angry. Anger is not the emotion you want to go into!

*you can ask if the person wants to help you at a different time. Maybe next week this person will have more free time!

* You can also ask if they know someone they think might be able to help you!

You can always ask someone else to help you!. You have not lost anything by asking your question!

Don't give up! Your help question is important. Sometimes it's simply not easy to find the right person to help you out! But the fact that you did ask is something to be proud about!

What if the other wants to help?

As soon as the other person tells you that they want or can help you out, it's time to make clear arrangements. 

What will he or she do for you and what can you do? Understanding each other prevents you both from annoyances, such as "He said he was going to help me, but he has not done that yet."

You do not need to find a solution to your question immediately. But you can agree what you expect from the other. For example, "I hope you want to listen to me for half an hour. So I can get it off my chest. "

It might help if you write these steps down! So, here are the steps, short and to the point! 

*What is the problem you need help for?

*Who is the best person to answer this question?

*When will you ask the question?

*Think about how to put the question exactly?

After you asked for help you can take some time to see how it went! Did it go as you hoped? How did it make you feel? Are you happy with the outcome? 

Asking for is not easy but doing it will make you feel better! 

You can not do everything alone!

Questions for help show humility and self-knowledge. It's not a sign of helplessness at all, it proves that you can look after yourself. Help questions are okay!!