I bet you can get better behaviour from your child, but there is only one way to do it.
Source: thenextfamily.com/
You must make it crystal clear that what they do will determine what will happen to them. No amount of warring words, cajoling or nudging will work unless you connect consequences to behaviour.
So, how do we connect consequences to behaviour?
Consider the following tips:
It can never be too soon or too late.
Even babies begin to learn quickly between what they do and what they get, so it's still possible to redeem that unruly 16 year old, so don't give up on them quite yet even if they don't buy into it all. They'll quickly figure out if there is something in it for them or not - be it something positive or negative.
Always take advantage and time with teachable moments.
Although we don't need to go on and on at them about their behaviour, if you see an opportunity to reinforce the behaviour-consequence connection, then take it. I promise you'll come across at least one time each day.
Watch out for feelings of taking things for granted.
Be on guard that your children don't take everything for granted, and make them work for their allowances and pocket money. If they complain about it call a family meeting to discuss the issue deeper with the whole family, thus reinforcing the behaviour-consequence connection even further.
Keep a check on your own behaviour.
It's never really a good rule to misbehave yourself in public like cursing at road rage, as your kids might start to believe that there are two sets of rules; one for adults and one for children. Remember, they are watching how you react and may mirror this behaviour themselves in the near future.
Bite your tongue when in front of them if you can.
Happy parenting!
