One Situation Where I Can't Apologize
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Humans are complex beings, and dealing with them requires a high level of intelligence. Each and every one of us has a unique way of handling things. Some of us are shaped by our backgrounds, some by past experiences and some by environment. Hardly will you find two individuals who reason, talk, and understand things the same way. This is why we need a large heart to deal with people.
One of the things that strengthens human relationships is apology. As casual as the word sounds, its presence can overlook a multitude of sins but its absence can turn a very small matter into a critical conflict. There is power in genuine and sincere apology.
All over the world today, people are against one another not because they were born to hate each other but because the place of proper apology was neglected. Most people feel too big to say "Sorry, I was wrong." They want to be right all the time, even when they know they are wrong. You see the problem some people have is not anything but pride.
No Wonder it is said, "Pride goes before destruction". A husband will wrong his wife but he is feeling too big to apologize because he thinks he is the head of the family, some of them will even go further saying, "I paid her bride's price." It happens down here in Nigeria.
When we learn to accept our faults and apologize the way it is supposed to be, we will not only obtain forgiveness but we will grow and understand each other better. Most people say is it not sorry? Just say the word and that is it. Well, it doesn't work like that, apology is something that is birthed from understanding, it is not just about saying sorry, it's about knowing that you're wrong and that's what ought to be done.
Some people get it wrong here, apologies go with repentance, how would you offend someone and then you come with your pride because people are persuading you to apologize and say something like "sorry" and then you hissed and walked away? Even if you didn't hiss, does that sound like an apology?
There is a proper way to apologize, you need to first acknowledge your wrong and repent, if you don't believe that what you did was wrong, even if you tell a person sorry, to me you didn't apologize because you might still do it some other time. if you are truly repentant, when you come to apologize, your pride is not supposed to follow you even if you are the boss of the organization.
The Situation Where I Would not Apologize
Is there any situation at all where I wouldn't apologize? I don't think so unless I didn't know what I did wrong. Like I said earlier on, apologizing means, you are saying I am wrong, and it's not going to happen again. So, why would I apologize for what I don't know about? What if I was not the one that even did it?
I am a very softhearted person, I can apologize a million times when I am wrong and even when I am not, provided I know what the problem is. But a person can not come from nowhere and start asking for an apology, It won't work.
I remember a certain. Time while I was in college, I was so hungry that day, I went to the woman I usually get drinks from but she didn't open, so I gave up. While coming out of the cafeteria, a guy on black just pushed me and started calling me names but I said nothing.
Like I was confused, "What's wrong with this guy?" I was reasoning within. He created a scene there and when people started asking what was wrong, the guy didn't reply to them but was busy asking for an apology. Others too joined him and were like just say sorry and let's end this. "Apologize for what exactly?" I asked but he never answered, he was even more furious at my response.
I told him see, there is nothing you will do, as far I don't know what I did to you, a single word of apology is not proceeding from my mouth. He thought I was joking, he kept ranting and ranting until he said I pushed him with my shoulder while coming out of the cafeteria. LoL. Funny right? I had to laugh but he seemed to be so offended. So, I instantly apologized and we all walked away. To be honest, I can't remember pushing him but that was his business.
The point here is that I can't just apologize for what I don't know, what if it's a criminal offense and I am not the one? What if it's even a mistaken identity? From apology, you may end up landing yourself in trouble.
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