When we speak of proastenia-synonym of laziness-it is to define a state of energetic slump that makes us postpone or avoid certain activities, although these are a must. This attitude arises as a result of a lack of internal motivation. If a habit becomes an obligation, it is because you are not motivated. For this reason, lazy children would have to work with the techniques and study habits.
For this type of children I would recommend some essential study techniques in order to achieve their short-term objectives, pass the exams:
• Plan the tasks and structure your time, both academic and daily. Be clear about how and when the task should be done, as they save a previous step. This does not mean that we give it all done, but to mark a daily routine, which should be supervised.
• Set realistic and achievable goals that guarantee long-term success. They will serve to gain self-confidence, as it can damage their self-esteem and cause personal dissatisfaction.
• To have social support, that is, to feel praised by those around them for having done it and for their efforts. Although studying is the duty of every child, it is advisable to reinforce these actions, as they will feel more recognized and avoid abandoning the objectives set.
It must be said, laziness is not a personality trait, but rather an acquired habit. Biological or personality factors may influence, but they are not determinative. However, the type of education we receive has a crucial effect on our role models. There is a positive side to all this, since detecting and optimizing the use of energy quickly and accurately is an impressive skill on the part of the nervous system. Remember that you must always strive to obtain good results, because without that effort there is no satisfaction.
"Educational styles based on overprotection often develop habits of laziness in children. The authoritarians, on the other hand, will be detrimental to other matters but not to the subject of discipline and effort "
- Only perform activities that do not require effort.
- No perfection is required in what he does: notes, assignments, duties.
- He does not fight every day against the defects that he has and that he knows perfectly.
- He lets himself be overcome by discouragement.
- Does not understand the positive value of sacrifice.
- Does not take care of small details.
- Do not think about things before doing them.
- Sometimes, he has nothing to do.
- Does not meet a schedule.
- Does not fulfill the commitments.
- Reveal the secrets that entrust to you.
In the case of well-to-do children, who shun their responsibilities, they do not get involved in housework, and if they do, it is after a lot of insisting, of course, that they do not. In a child like this, the root of the problem may be in parents who have wanted to make life easier and give everything, to avoid suffering or pass any deficiency. He is always treated like a small child, he is provided with mimes and carantoñas.
- help you organize an afternoon or weekend schedule, in order to develop your self-demanding capacity. That is not overwhelming or easy, so you always know what you have to do and what not.
- Remind him that he must finish what he starts, such as a sports extracurricular activity.
- Require perfection in their duties, according to their maturity and age.
- Encourage him to do, from time to time, what he does not want and it is not his job -as an annoying message- to strengthen his will.
- Allow time between your request and its fulfillment. It is more educational to earn what you want to have.
- Try to always do your own things, before falling into the temptation to do it ourselves, for example, order your clothes.
- Require self-control in their impulses: bad mood, impatience, curiosity.
- Do not let it complain of small setbacks.
- Accustom him to assume his responsibilities.
It is important to delegate to the children daily tasks. The activities assigned to them should be in accordance with the child's age and mental and physical abilities, however, it will be necessary to have patience and not perform them for him, it helps a lot to direct the child to get things for himself. Work at home is one of the best strategies to prevent a child from becoming lazy. Children and adolescents should be in a position to order the bed, clean the dishes, among other tasks of the house. It allows children to learn to do well-done tasks.
Avoid providing money. Currently there are parents who give money to their children from very young even if they do not do anything at home. In order for the children to learn to value the money and the struggle to earn it, they must say 'no' when they ask for it and provide it only when they deem it necessary and they do not expect it.
Educate the child to perform the tasks. An appropriate way to help children not to be lazy is to teach them to carry out activities so that they learn to do them well. It is essential that they learn that things are achieved with effort and dedication.
Form from the example. If you are a wandering individual, children may also follow this model. If you do not order your own space, the children will believe that this is the common thing and they will also be disorganized and dirty. If you want the child not to be lazy, you must teach by example.
