I have to be honest and say that a lot of times I thought of myself as a victim of life, circumstances, other people's actions. You know that Why me? mentality that can be very limiting and self-sabotaging. When you give power to the outside world and people to determine your life, happiness or decisions. But once you let go of that limiting mindset, you're able to take back your own power. It took me a lot of time to realize this and I don't think this is a destionation, it's a journey I'm still on, constantly learning and trying to improve. Letting go of old patterns and ways of thinking, that have been with us for a long time is not easy, but it's also not impossible. It takes time, patience and effort but it's definitely worth it!
I think of our mindset as a muscle that needs certain excercies to get bigger and stronger. And this doesn't happen over night but if we are dedicated and work on it consistently, results will show. If we "train" our brain to look at life's experiences as something that happens FOR us, we will no longer play the role of victims and we can expand our perspective to a much bigger picture. Imagine if life or a person has blindfolded you and you spend time waiting for them to take it off instead of you doing it yourself. You can do it yourself and be able to see again with your own eyes. I hope this metaphor makes sense. :)
Some of the benefits I have experienced by realizing that things happen FOR me are: a lot more freedom in being myself, being able to forgive others and myself, thinking of every experience as a lesson and every person I met as a "teacher", being more grateful for the good and bad in life, thinking of the ways I can improve as a person instead of drowning in self-pity, less grudge to carry around (this one is probably the hardest thing for me still), giving myself more "permission" to enjoy life and hobbies I like... I also found more inner peace which is one of the most important things for me.
I hope you have found this post interesting or inspiring. I just wanted to share what has been on my mind these days. Thanks for stopping by, have a great day! :)
